{Me thinks...}

Another week, a day late, a week crazier life as we know it....with that comes the good the bad and the depressing ha ha.... but rise above is a great saying for this week....  

because thats life and it ain't always perfect....

I have been sick for two weeks everything from flu to sinus coughing sneezing you name joys ....oh well thats life....

Well we've been eating breathing football 

HAPPY NOTES...

...5 games within the last week four of which were K's 

1 was the first town game all fun to watch 

{although honestly don't think I'll ever get it ha ha} but i love to people watch and see people thats fun...

K seems to be really enjoying football though and that makes me happy...

......SO after a year.... we finally found out who L's friend that made her year last year somewhat better than most of it was....she could never remember this "new friends" last name so I always wondered who she was playing with...  come to find out she is a really sweet girl a grade older than her who plays wonderfully with L....AND I know her mother and family from growing up in the same town pretty much...

small world I thanked her for her sweet daughter helping make L's grade one year better....her little friend also invited her to her baptism which happened to be Sunday ...so I took my awkward feelings and took L to it...she loved it and so did her sweet friend....anyway it was nice to finally find out who this mystery girl was from last year!

....K2 learned how to climb out of his bed last Saturday night so funny he got out but the boy who loves to sleep cried for mom and then promptly said "sleep in" pointing to his bed he got out but couldn't get back in...cutest kid ever:) he hasn't tried again either! So let's hope he doesn't for awhile! {and just because this picture is so cute}

.....went to a reception for a cousin on saturday night and ran into a favorite blogging family I met through blogging so fun to hold there sweet, beautiful little baby girl and talk it was fun:) 

...have I mentioned my roaming boy who leaves for hours sometimes and invades peoples home's, seriously he is such a people person makes himself at home where ever he is. My poor new neighbors....  
I just hope my neighborhood knows that they can send him home as soon as they see him because nine chances out of ten he isn't supposed to be out! But he is a sneaky one....  and then I get pictures sent to me like this

 oh my M where ever he is... is home love him...but can't wait for cooler weather so I can keep him a little more contained:)

....burb broke down {again} such is life.... and we had to rent a little car a Nissan sentra just to get to everywhere we needed to be its kind of nice having a little car..so we are in the market to get one soon...what is your favorite?? this is what we are driving its so nice a little out of my price range though but it is really nice!

.....Made this recipe it is so good from the "mmmms" and second helpings I'd say it was a keeper...found here

....we made these too super good.... goey to work with but the kids loved them too...found here

love this subway art that I have up in my living room mantel right now perfect for September...found here

have you smelled some new scentsy lately?? just ordered some and can't wait to get some new fall scents....I ♥ fall...

biggest loser starts again can't wait!!!!!

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ME THINKS...

Always something on my mind but this time its kind of pet peeve day I can do that right its my blog..lol....but really..

1st. really ...a 1/2 hour sit com what happened to the clean, funny ones? Oh yeah there aren't any!!!? They are all extremely sexually based from comments to suggestion, last night for 10 minutes i watched one won't say what one but I was disgusted and changed the channel ...pure garbage ...it amazes me what some people think is funny and what we let our guard down to think things are funny or let it slip by or support somethings that are so morally wrong and the reason these shows keep playing is because they are watched...and because we laugh and let it slid like its okay because by and by it becomes the normal WHEN it clearly isn't the normal but thats how it becomes that because people laugh and think its funny!! 

What are we really watching and think is good? 

When years ago we would have been appalled?? 

But we become immune to it,  then the wayward things are meant to look just fine or normal or accepting  and they become not so bad or common place.  Before long it is the society we live in, 

the society we now have to raise our kids in because we let it in our house, 

because we thought it was funny. 

Guess what It's not funny.

2nd. This is not intended to offend or hurt anyones feelings in relation to any aspect of adoption this is strictly my opinion and our experiences.

 ADOPTION and openness 

We LOVE our children's birth parents all of them they made the biggest greatest sacrifice  for these children and because of them we are mothers and fathers... and have a family.

but more and more it seems that the openness levels are changing because of more and more outspoken people are making others think that is the norm or whatever. 

Each to their own situation I know that each one is very different from experience.

In our family WE send pictures & letters at certain times throughout our children's lives to their birth parents. I love getting the pictures ready I send a lot of them and I put time into the letters going to them. But we do not have visits and parties and gift giving and such with any of them {not because we don't love them} but because we are a family and these precious children are sealed to us as if they were born to us. Part of the plan in our church and with adoption.

It may work for some all the power to them in the states this seems to be more of the way things are going.

We were told by caseworkers & and through others experiences after asking what they thought of this growing trend of a lot of openness.... of visitations and all and they told us "it is for the best interest and well being of the child to not go there" and I know others will have a varied opinion on this and  knowing that every single situation is different. Not every party of adoption is for it even if it happened...... meaning there is malice, suing and hurt and lies against us just to have a family....we become the brunt of that sometimes. For doing nothing but wanting a family and finally after years receive this beautiful miracle only to be tainted sometimes by the offending party wanted to disturb things and make and shake things up..... we were SUED by one of our children's birth  families three times was not easy probably one of the hardest times ever.

We don't want to ever feel as though we are just babysitting our children and of course we have never felt that way.... we have wonderful birth mothers three of which I have spent time talking to hugging and seeing in the past year. 

I have no problem with this I enjoyed it and loved seeing them again. They who have all agreed to the way we do things in order for them to move on have families and marriages  and working on there lives of  there own. Knowing that everything they wanted for these little ones is being done, a mother and father, an eternal unit. Happiness. I know that a day doesn't go by that these beautiful women don't think of these children I would, but hopefully over the years this pain has lessened a bit as they see what they always hoped there children would become and hope to become. 

My children know their birth mothers names and the birth fathers the ones that were involved, they have pictures, they know they are all adopted and one day if they chose to meet there birth mothers/fathers we are more then happy to help them. 

But now there are enough things in a child's life to handle, we have social, medical histories and know a lot more then years and years ago  that we have nowadays. 

Of course often there are questions that come up that we wish we had answers too sometimes. But we feel that we are a family unit as normal and natural as any other child and family..especially with four children all different situations if one had that and the rest didn't  how would the other feel? 

Causing more questions and more thinking? 

I know every situation is different and believe me there are some I would never want visitation with that contradict every value and moral we stand for. The complete opposite of the things we try to teach our children.

So its frustrating to me that people start thinking its the norm when it isn't, and in the eternal scheme of things these birth mothers and fathers will be blessed beyond measure and hopefully with eternal families of there own as I have my own because of them and for that I will be eternally grateful. 

 {{I hope this made sense I always get people asking my opinion on this subject since its kind of close to home so I am just truthfully and honestly giving you an answer and what has worked for us.  Lots of opinions and thoughts on it. Doesn't mean its wrong or whatever if someone does.}

“The challenges you face, the growth experiences you encounter, are intended to be temporary scenes played out on the stage of a life of continuing peace and happiness. Sadness, heartache, and disappointment are events in life. It is not intended that they be the substance of life. I do not minimize how hard some of these events can be. When the lesson you are to learn is very important, trials can extend over a long period of time, but they should not be allowed to become the confining focus of everything you do. Your life can and should be wondrously rewarding. It is your understanding and application of the laws of God that will give your life glorious purpose as you ascend and conquer the difficulties of life. That perspective keeps challenges confined to their proper place–stepping-stones to further growth and attainment.”
— by Richard G. Scott
Have an awesome week.