Saturday, May 9, 2009

{ ♥Birthmothers and Mothers Day♥..}

Did you know today is Birth Mother's Day?

Birth mothers Day

She holds him
in her heart
And she remembers...
She remembers the magic
of the first flutter of life
She remembers the delight
of looking into his tiny face for the first time
And saying, "So there you are!"
She remembers the sadness
of letting go
And the incredible pain
of separation
She will always remember
what it was like to be his mother
to hold his tiny body close
Today we remember her
for all she has given
for her part
in bringing a miraculous life into the world
For the love she will always have
and hold
in her heart.
by Brenda Romanchik


I couldn't let today slip by without mentioning three very important people in our lives who chose our family to place three tiny perfect beautiful babies in our arms and family.
Three girls who I see everyday when I look into my children's faces.
Three girls who gave three children more then they could give them at the time.
Three girls who made me a mother, made D a father, made us a family.
Three girls who sacrificed much pain and hurt for the three miracles we call
our children.
Three girls who thought more about their baby then themselves.
Three girls who withstood all obstacles to do what they knew was best.
Three girls WE LOVE and think of everyday.
♥Tanya, ♥Nicole, ♥Chelsie
our three angels....
Happy Birth Mothers Day
We love you
and so do
Kolten Lauren and Masen.
2006- M man placement. He was born on Mothers day 3 years ago what a mothers day gift eh.

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Happy Mothers Day to everybody.
TO my Mom
To my mother in law
2 of the best women I know.
Who have taught me almost everything I know.
To my friends, My sisters...
and especially all those who are wishing and hoping for a mothers day to celebrate
and not to cry
to those wishing and praying.....



"All that I am or ever hope to be,I owe to my angel Mother."
- Abraham Lincoln (1809-1865)
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The Invisible Mother {I think we all feel like this some days....}
It all began to make sense, the blank stares, the lack of response, the way one of the kids will walk into the room while I'm on the phone and ask to be taken to the store.
Inside I'm thinking, 'Can't you see I'm on the phone?'
Obviously, not. No one can see if I'm on the phone, or cooking, or sweeping the floor,
or even standing on my head in the corner, because no one can see me at all.
I'm invisible. The invisible Mom. Some days I am only a pair of hands, nothing more:
Can you fix this?
Can you tie this?
Can you open this ?
Some days I'm not a pair of hands; I'm not even a human being.
I'm a clock to ask, 'What time is it?' I'm a satellite guide to answer,
'What number is the Disney Channel?'
I'm a car to order, 'Right around 5:30, please.'
I was certain that these were the hands that once held books and the eyes that studied history and the mind that graduated sum a cum laude - but now they had disappeared into
the peanut butter, never to be seen again.
She's going; she's going; she is gone!
One night, a group of us were having dinner, celebrating the return of a friend from England ..Janice had just gotten back from a fabulous trip, and she was going on and on about the hotel she stayed in.
I was sitting there, looking around at the others all put together so well. It was hard not to compare and feel sorry for myself.
I was feeling pretty pathetic, when Janice turned to me with a beautifully wrapped package, and said, 'I brought you this.'
It was a book on the great cathedrals of Europe. I wasn't exactly sure why she'd given it to me until I read her inscription:
'To Charlotte, with admiration for the greatness of what you are building when no one sees.'
In the days ahead I would read - no, devour - the book.
And I would discover what would become for me, four life-changing truths, after which I could pattern my work:
No one can say who built the great cathedrals - we have no record of their names.
These builders gave their whole lives for a work they would never see finished.
They made great sacrifices and expected no recognition.
The passion of their building was fueled by their faith that the eyes of God saw everything .
A legendary story in the book told of a rich man who came to visit the cathedral while it was being built, and he saw a workman carving a tiny bird on the inside of a beam. He was puzzled and asked the man,
'Why are you spending so much time carving that bird into a beam that will be covered by the roof?
No one will ever see it.' And the workman replied, 'Because God sees.'
I closed the book, feeling the missing piece fall into place. It was almost as if I heard God whispering to me,
'I see you, Charlotte. I see the sacrifices you make every day, even when no one around you does.
No act of kindness you've done, no sequin you've sewn on, no cupcake you've baked, is too small for me to notice and smile over.
You are building a great cathedral, but you can't see right now what it will become.'
At times, my invisibility feels like an affliction.
But it is not a disease that is erasing my life. It is the cure for the disease of my own self-centeredness.
It is the antidote to my strong, stubborn pride. I keep the right perspective when I see myself as a great builder.
As one of the people who show up at a job that they will never see finished, to work on something that their name will never be on.
The writer of the book went so far as to say that no cathedrals could ever be built in our lifetime because there are so few people willing to sacrifice to that degree. When I really think about it,
I don't want my son to tell the friend he's bringing home from college for Thanksgiving,
'My Mom gets up at 4 in the morning and bakes homemade pies, and then she hand bastes a turkey for three hours and presses all the linens for the table.'
That would mean I'd built a shrine or a monument to myself. I just want him to want to come home.
And then, if there is anything more to say to his friend, to add, 'you're gonna love it there.'
As mothers, we are building great cathedrals. We cannot be seen if we're doing it right. And one day, it is very possible that the world will marvel, not only at what we have built, but at the beauty that has been added to the world by the sacrifices of invisible women. We never know what our finished products will turn out to be because of our perseverance.
Happy Mothers Day all you Invisible women!!
♥HAVE A BEAUTIFUL DAY♥

5 comments:

Lynn said...

HAPPY HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY Christal!!! I totally know how busy you are this weekend with birthdays being on Mother's Day weekend! ; ) Have fun! Enjoy your day!!!

whitney said...

Happy Mothers Day!
Thanks, I'm bawling now! Good post!

Tanya said...

Happy Mother's Day! I'm so happy for you. Three beautiful children. It seems like just yesterday we lived in Logan. Your amazing....

Amy said...

What a lovely post, thanks for your personal thoughts on birth moms and for the invisible mom story.

Judy said...

Hope you had a great mothers day! I love the post and the story....so true. You are the best!